Usually it is said that:
"见人说人话，见鬼说鬼话。" means 看人们在说话办事的过程当中应变能力很强。能够做到见风使舵。( 略带贬义）
Sometimes, it is even extended to ".. 混的“好”的，都是见人说人话、见鬼说鬼话、见神说神话。"
It simply means be extremely flexible when dealing with people. Pander to their dreams and desires, all shall be given unto thee.
If you do that, you would be miserable. It essentially means that you will always be trying to please. When you try to please, your attitude is automatically subservient to their lordships. This is not good for negotiation.
Unless you appear an equal and hence, valuable, you would never be able to extract a good bargain.
Do note that different groups have different agendas. The folks in the government-of-the-day would be driven by powers, promotions and accolades. The business folks would be driven by market territories and monetary maneuvers. Their low-ranked employees don't matter.
Hence, in order not to fall into the mistake of being too subservient to any groups, you must employ a newer tact - 见人说鬼话, 见鬼说人话。
见人说鬼话, 见鬼说人话。 means you use the other groups as counter-weights. If you are with the business group, talk incessantly about your dealings with your government-of-the-day groups. Express your connectivity and your friendship. There is no need to discuss your current desires. They simply can't wait but to ask you. Say it in one simple sentence and leave it hanging. They would agree to assist you with money and pleasures, of course with no string attached. They simply wanted in at whatever the cost. They can't let a fat cow slipped by.
On the other hand, if you are with the power group, talk incessantly about your dealings with your business groups. Express your connectivity and your friendship. There is no need to discuss your current desires. They simply can't wait but to ask you. Say it in one simple sentence and leave it hanging. They would agree to assist you with approvals, of course with no string attached. They simply wanted in at whatever the cost. They can't let a chance to gain promotion and fame due to a successful business-type to slip through. You might be the next bill gates helping out in full employment.
This method will allow you to walk and stand tall. Because any faults are finger-pointed towards the other group. You are humble and simply a message postman. You are therefore blameless and if there are any gaps in expectation, you simply can't help it, it is the problem of the executing group. But, of course, you can help to resolve the outstanding issues through mediation and zeal. Frankly with full government-of-the-day approvals and money, no business-type will fail, unless it is poorly conceived.
At the end of the day, 人鬼神 are all you.
Footnote: Never employ this method to your true friends. They are not to tricked.
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